WHO I WILL BE

The goals and dreams that I have imagine about are very simple I think, but a lot of hard work to get there. The first thing is to get into the school I want to study Networking. I want to graduate and find a job. All I desire is to have a house and take care of myself with out being dependent of anybody else. Also I want to have a husband and a family of my own. Just like any girl or woman dream about. My goal is to raise my children the best way possible, because of my bad childhood I just want them to have good memories. I want to give them all they need but only some of the things they want. I want to get a good enough job so I can send my father on a long vacation, I want him to rest and spend the rest of his life doing the things he wants to do. He told me once that he would like to go to a place where the sun sets in the horizon. I really want to achieve that. I want to be happy without feeling guilty about it. I want to love my self fully and just have a healthy mind. The obstacles that I think I would face is the studying for my degree and to struggle a little bit because the language is different. Another problem would be to make my life loving somebody when I can barely love myself. Also if I do have kids I think I would be too overly protective and controlling my irrational thoughts. Even though these would be some hard problems to overcome I know that it is possible. I will have to adjust to certain situations. The change I would love to do is to make my family close to each other I would like us to have family reunions and I could take kids with my family. Now there are mostly fights and arguments. I would like to make my family closer and more united. My brother's girlfriend moved in with us she has caused drama and fights with my mother and turns my brother against us. Sometimes I feel I am living through a soup opera and I am waiting for the happy ending but sometimes I wonder if that will ever happen. I have been miserable most of my life and the thing I desire the most is to be happy and live a happy long life.

Who I Am

My favorite thing to do for my free time is to play basketball and to bake pastries. my talent is my mathematical ability and a little bit of basketball. I dislike when people are disrespectful and not loyal. Also when it comes to food I dislike vegetables. I like when people are upfront with their intentions. When it comes to food I love junk or anything fried. I can be very kind and understanding but when someone betrays that trust I cannot trust that person again. I can be very gentle and the friendlies person to the people I know but I can also be super shy and timid. My biggest strength, I think is the fact that I am very hard working and dedicated to the things I want to achieve.I work on something and do not stop until everything is done. My biggest weakness is that I do not trust people easily and usually I am very judgmental about their actions.I am very observant and watch my surroundings before I get into any situation. I think one way I can improve my weakness is to try be more open towards other people. I can use my strength to excel in my school studies and in my job so I can reach where I want to be in life. My current roles is a child in my family of six children. I am the fourth child.

Emotional IQ Test

How well do you know your own emotions? Understanding our emotional strengths and weaknesses is necessary to affect change and growth in our lives. Intelligence allows us to comprehend and internalize the world around us, but without emotional intelligence we are unable to handle the many pressures, roadblocks, and challenges that stand in the way of our goals. Awareness of our emotions is the first step to living a more balanced and focused lifestyle.

Know Thyself... Knowing your emotional weaknesses allows you to alter your lifestyle to improve your social interactions, time spent with family, problems in your relationships, communication between friends, workplace attitude and efficiency, emotional stability, and many other daily situations in which your emotional aptitude is utilized and challenged.

Your Weakest Emotional Category is: Openness

Recognizing your emotional strengths is equally important. For example, strong assertiveness can be positive, assuming you are not domineering in conversations and relationships. Strong empathy can be beneficial, as long as you don't put the interests of others before your own well-being. Moderation is the key to successfully handling your emotions.

Your Strongest Emotional Category is: Self-Reliance

Part 1 auto biography

I was born on the 23rd of October 1991. My childhood was not the most happiest time. My mother was always away working far away from home. My father was an alcoholic and was never around. We were left with my grandmother who taught me too cook and do chores. eventually she had to go back to punta gorda and I was left in charge of the whole family and chores. the responsibility was left on my shoulders and although it was a lot of work I was happy to take care of my family. The most saddest moment was when i was waiting for my dad to reach home because it was my birthday he promised he would be home. i was turning 8 and I was all dressed up. I waited and waited and he never showed up. It was the saddest day for me. one of my proudest achievements was coming in second in a national poem competition. I finally got brave enough to share my poems. The moment that was life changing for me was my near death experience I got to see how much my daddy loved me. he even apologized for not showing up for my birthday when i was 8. He made me feel strong and although he was not as caring as can be he showed me in life God only tests the persons who he knows can get over it. Also because of him he showed me that when a person get over a hard time they should also try to help others who are dealing with the same problems. My father is also my role model because he has gone to an alcoholic and abuser of my mother to a caring loving father and husband. with that huge change he made me believe in people and  that they can really change if they want to. he is now trying to make up for his mistakes. he also battled with depression and his strength and dedication as a person and a father just makes me admire him more and i want to be just like him. he was my best friend during my darkest time, he was my shoulder for me to cry on and every time i was ready to give up he was there to help me through it. i would be very happy if i could be a parent like him. there is no one i admire more.

Questions from the movie precious

Questions for the movie Precious

1. What were the factors that contributed to Precious having low self-esteem?

The factors were the sexual abuse from her father and the emotional and physical abuse from her mother. Her environment was not healthy for her emotionally and Physically.

2. What signs of low self-esteem did Precious display?

Precious let her mother abuse her. and when she look in the mirror she saw  what she wanted to look like and it was far from her physical appearance.

3. What defense mechanisms did Precious use to avoid dealing with pain? Give examples.

The defense mechanism that Precious uses is repression and sublimation. she repressed all her memories of the abuse of her father and when her mother beat her and say remarks to bring her down. she went to a fantasy place in her mind. (sublimation) this made her less unhappy because she had a place where she was truly happy even though it was only in her mind

4. What neurotic needs did Precious over-use or display? Give examples.

The neurotic behavior that Precious used was NN to restrict one's life with a narrow border. She always sit at the back of the class and kept quite. also she pass negative comments on her own self.

5. What helped Precious increase her self-esteem?

Her teacher helped her expressed herself with writing and when her baby came she was given a purpose to live so in a way her little boy helped.

6. What signs of higher/increasing self-esteem did Precious display?

Precious now talked to the girls in the class and she was now sharing all her writing with the class and was opening up with her teacher and was looking at life a whole different way. she was all loving with her child even though she did not have that with her own mother.

7. What did you learn from the movie?

I learn that even though life can be tough anything can be overcome with the right mindset and the determination to keep on living.

8. Would you recommend the movie to others? Why or why not?
   I would recommend the movie because many people do not realize how lucky they are and should not take life for granted. 

IQ Test

Congratulations!
Your general IQ score is 113.

A person whose IQ score falls in the range of 111-128 is considered to be "above average intelligence".

An IQ is a composite of your scores across 12 distinct aspects of intelligence. Each person has a unique intellectual make-up, with strengths and weaknesses that affect their methods of understanding, recognition, communication and association. Using a carefully cross-reference scoring scheme, TestCafe is able to accumulate a profound quantity of information about your natural intellectual abilities.

Self Esteem Test

Your self esteem is at 63%

 

This is not good. Your low self esteem is holding you back. Try listing at least two or three things you like about yourself each day for a week. Then, look back on them. Are any of them things that you can appreciate about yourself on a daily basis? Focus on gratitude for your own special wonderfulness, then come back and take this quiz again. I'll bet your self esteem will be higher.